If your dating success isn’t the best it could be, is there anything you can do to be more “dateable”? And what does that mean, anyway?
Being dateable means you’re someone who people would like to date, and who people enjoy spending time with. Of course, it doesn’t mean everyone you meet is going to feel that way—that would be impossible! But someone who is dateable is generally likable and fun to be around, which is definitely achievable for most people.
Advertisers always market a product’s unique selling point—that quality that makes the item in question uniquely valuable and better than the competition. When you’re dating, especially if you’re dating online, in a way you’re advertising, and making sure your date knows what the best things about you are, those things that make you special.
So, it’s important that you know what those things are. Maybe you’re a great cook or an incredible dancer, you have an affinity for pets, or you love to paint. People have all kinds of special interests and talents — what are yours?
If you’re having trouble feeling confident when you go on a date, is it something to do with the way you look? We can’t all be supermodels (and in fact very very few of us are) but everyone is attractive in their own way. And everyone is beautiful to someone!
Are you ready to make a fresh start? A fresh wardrobe might be just the thing. If you’re stuck in the last decade, or last century, think about modernising your look. And if you’re not sure what looks good on you when you go shopping take a friend to help, or ask for advice from salespeople.
Are you someone who doesn’t have much in the way of interests or hobbies? Getting out there and trying something new is a great way to add something fun to your life, and meet new people at the same time. And the more you have in your life that’s interesting and stimulating, the more interesting a person you become.
How often do you head outside of your comfort zone? Stepping out of our ordinary everyday lives to challenge ourselves is a great way to fuel personal growth and start to become that best version of ourselves that we know we can be. Head off on your own for a weekend holiday, try an adventurous activity you’ve always been a bit cautious about, or challenge yourself in another way.
One of the worst kinds of dates is the kind where you run out of things to say five minutes after you meet. Avoid this dating disaster — and become a more well-rounded individual — by reading, seeing films, and just getting out and learning new things. You’ll always have something to talk about, and others will tend to view you as being a more interesting person, too.
Above all else, the best way to be dateable is to be yourself and be confident in yourself. Confidence is always attractive, and when you like who you are, it shows. And, when you’re consistent and confident about who you are and what your tastes are, you’re more likely to attract the kinds of people with whom you have things in common — which means more fun on dates, and maybe more dates in general.
But, if you’re going to be yourself, there’s no reason why you can’t be the best version of yourself. You don’t need to make huge changes, or alter your personality, but in each and every one of us, there’s always room for a bit of improvement!